A man who makes you feel insecure is trying to be in your league but will never be

By Karen Song

If I were a man who didn't naturally "have much game" and I were interested in acquiring a hot woman, these are the options I would consider:

1) Become super rich.
2) Ingratiate myself and manipulate her into thinking she needs me so that I become indispensable. This could be achieved by fixing her electronics, getting her hired at a job, and encouraging general co-dependency.
3) Be a jerk and insult her so that she thinks I'm hot stuff

As you can see, the easiest way for a man to snag a woman out of his league is to make her feel insecure and jerk her around with her own feelings (whether it be by making her feel like she needs him or knocking her down enough to feel like she needs him). Every woman seems to have latent insecurity from centuries of oppression, period induced moodiness, and photo-shopped garbage:

So men will often try to manipulate these feelings if they are below your league. From a logical standpoint, making someone feel insecure is a very easy task. If you were to walk up to any stranger on the street and tell him that he's fat, I'm sure he'd go home, check himself out in the mirror, and resolve to work out. A man on a mission to make you feel insecure will probably succeed if he intends to and you let him.

It is important to recognize when this happens to avoid drama and other unnecessary problems and snag a man who is actually in your league. A small man who normally doesn't have power and is on a power trip is pretty much the worst case scenario. It's like wasting your precious time and emotional energy unpacking your interactions with the office bitch, who doesn't have anything else in life going for her but being a bitch. Life is short and ridden with plenty of opportunities to feel bad about yourself. So don't waste your time. You deserve to live life at your best with the best man you can snag. Not with someone beneath you whose best chance at success with you is achieved by making you feel small.

If you don't believe me, just visit David De'Angelo and his pick up artist tricks to confirm that this is an actual technique: http://www.doubleyourdating.com/  I once had a loser ping me repeatedly over the course of a year to give me "life advice" and accuse me of being a psychopathic basket case with Aspergers syndrome after I met him twice (I'm not even kidding on this one). Once it became clear that seemingly harmless social media desperation was turning into something malicious, I de-friended him immediately. Recognize this when it happens.

The tendency for men to project their own insecurity onto their unwitting victims (their female "projects") is unfortunately a common occurrence. There is even a term for the idealized, crazy female who under normal circumstances would be out of a man's league: The Manic Pixie Dream Girl. A beautiful woman like Audrey Hepburn in "Breakfast at Tiffany's" or Natalie Portman in "Garden State" suddenly becomes accessible to a man below her league because of her manic, crazy tendencies.

A man who makes you feel insecure is trying be in your league but will never be. So be your fabulous self and establish some boundaries. Snag someone with self-confidence who matches your level of awesomeness. End of story.