The Eraser

On the quest to snagging a man and keeping him, a woman is bound to encounter a few obstacles. Like anything worth fighting for in life- whether that be starting a start-up, running marathons, or hiking a mountain - there is bound to be an uncomfortable moment of despair that is best conquered by identifying and recognizing reality for what it is. Stressed? It's because your start-up is out of money. Breathless? It's because you're on an incline and climbing a fucking mountain. It's not because you're fat, it's not because you suck. It's because you're out of money or climbing a fucking mountain.

Unfortunately, most women don't seem to keep things in perspective on their snagging a man journey- degenerating into spirals of despair or self-loathing instead of identifying and recognizing reality for what it is. Maybe the guy wasn't the right fit. Or maybe he's just an asshole.  I actually think shopping for men is a lot like shopping for clothes. Something from Neiman Marcus will probably look and feel better than something from Target. No matter how many times you wear it out, the higher quality fabric and cut will last you a hell of a lot longer than something from Target or Kmart. Choose carefully so that your starting point is high and you have a greater guarantee of success. And like shopping, if someone isn't working out, ditch it and try someone else. 

You see, the beautiful thing about your snagging a man journey is that you can always break out the mental eraser without incurring negative consequences. No need to enshrine the man by wondering what went wrong and engaging in hours of self-affirming conversations with your girl friends. In fact, no one even really needs to know. Maybe it never even happened. Simply place the mental 'X' and erase the man from memory to move on with your life and truly advance in your quest to snag a man and keep him.