This is because she is dork fabulous. I don't care if catty women complain that she is a thirty-something who acts like a child. Who cares if she started a blog called "Hello Giggles," tweets about kittens, or wears sparkly headbands. The woman knows how to get what she wants and has achieved more in one lifetime than most women will ever achieve. She's a successful actress, singer, song-writer, entrepreneur, and inspirational role model for victims of bullying. Her greatest scandal was when the press got a hold of her financial information following her divorce and she was upheld as an uncharacteristically frugal and generous Hollywood denizen. She's on top of the world, and the remarkable part is that she remains unabashedly herself (and has probably gotten this far by doing so). Just take a look at this video of her playing the ukulele with Joseph Gordon-Levitt on New Year's Eve. She is so adorkably cute!
As I've mentioned before, women are a lot harder on each other than men are on them. For mysterious reasons, women are given to painstaking worship of polish and perfection. My theory is that nature has cursed us with an internal brain drill that fires off irrationally and tells us unnecessarily negative things (especially when it gets closer to that time of the month). To some degree, it's this perfectionism, desire to meet high standards, and desire to please that makes us incredibly resourceful workers and mothers. Magazines like Vogue and Better Homes and Gardens sell well because they cater to our predilection for polish and perfection.
But I'll let you in on a secret- men don't really care. Much like their preference for utility over aesthetics, they prefer accessibility over perfection. In fact, they'd probably prefer someone who wasn't Martha Stewart if that meant getting nagged less. While women worship other women who seem polished, put-together, and not socially awkward, men adore a woman who is confident enough to embrace her vulnerable, imperfect, inner dork. This means a woman who is okay with being who she really is apart from social conventions, has her own interests, and expresses the idiosyncrasies and quirks that make her unique (so that he feels he has snagged someone special). At the end of the day, you probably want someone who loves you for who you really are anyway. Be weird, be off. Whatever. Be your dork fabulous self.
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