By Karen SongWhen I was younger, I never believed mommy was right. But she actually was. I will dispense this advice to you now...
1. Don't wear too much make-up or over-do it with the high maintenance activities. I had a guy tell me on a boating trip yesterday, "Whenever I see manicured nails or that eyelash curler thing, I run." All you need to do is shower and wear clean clothes. I personally use Dove Men's body wash.
2. Focus on being happy and well. Exercise, eat right, sleep, make friends, and wear sunscreen. The best ways to beauty are health, happiness, and a disarming smile.
3. Invest in your education and your professional development. A man will respect you more when you have independence and self-efficacy. These aspects are more important to a man than your investment in plastic surgery. And the types of men who are interested in those investments and willing to indulge house froggery are probably the types of men that don't respect women anyway (just think about all those trophy wives in Orange County who still get cheated on). You never want to give so much power to a man that he becomes a dick, so please invest in financial independence and self-sufficiency. At least you'll always have yourself to fall back on.
4. The women who get into healthy, long-term relationships and marriages are not always the most beautiful ones. In fact, the ones that stay in stable relationships are usually plain and quite average. My mommy says that beautiful women depend too much on their appearance so never have the chance to develop a personality or the qualities that men would require of a long-term partner. They also tend to be picky with unrealistic expectations. Being responsible, dependable, and resourceful are qualities that any logical man would probably want in a wife and mother. So learn to think about the needs of others, stay on top of your life, and don't be a bitch.
5. It's very important to not be a bitch. My mommy used to say, "Karen, OK to BITCH yi dian (this means "little bit" in Chinese)." Her meaning was that it's actually advisable to be a little bit of a bitch to avoid being walked all over at work and in your relationship. But it's probably not okay to really be a bitch and drive your man crazy. Being bat-crazy will definitely make the guy wander.
6. All men are kind of the same. I may even argue that there's even less variation between men than there is between women. Every man want a woman who smells nice, doesn't complain constantly, and doesn't give them too much trouble. They want good sex and a personality they can put up with. My mommy says that if you don't learn this lesson early, you will jump from man to man and continue to deal with the same shit and set of problems since all men are kind of the same.
My mommy's advice is spot-on (albeit blunt). These are time-tested methods for snagging a man.
